>>Actually, the "perfect" man would be both handsome and RP speaking. However, since that is often not the case, I would rather sleep with a handsome non-RP speaking man than with an ugly RP-speaking one. Even that is an oversimplification since there are infinitely many degrees of handsomeness and ugliness and an infinitely range of accents anywhere in England rangling from the broadest local accent all the way up to RP. If I just wanted a good fuck I would go for the looks and to hell with the accent. However, if I wanted a sincere, caring, long-term relationship with a man who will treat me with courtesy, dignity, and respect.... Well, in that case his speech (in addition to his personality, intelligence, and maturity) would be a factor.<<
Of course, that begs the question of why would his speech have anything to do him treating one with coutesy, dignity, and respect in the first place.
>>Although an RP-speaking man may turn out to be a playboy or a cad, he is equally likely (or even more likely) to turn out to be a gentleman. However, a man with a very broad local accent is not very likely to be a gentleman. Such men can sometimes be very "slippery" with women (although that is sometimes also the case with upper class men).<<
Of course, if someone wasn't born into a family that was RP-speaking, if they did *become* RP-speaking, that could indicate a whole number of things, which are not necessarily good things. For instance, a level of self-consciousness with respect to overall accent, a level of being social ladder-climbing in nature, and a level of elitism with respect to accent, potentially.
>>The only men I would really reject as potential long-term mates are those who fall below a certain degree of handsomess or those whose accents falls beyond a certain degree of commoness.<<
What do either of those have to do with whether someone is a good long-term mate?
>>The truth of the matter is that you have to look at the entire man and not just one particular aspect. You have to see if the "package" is what you want, even if one or two elements of that package are less than perfect.<<
Well, yes, and I don't see how the element of accent/dialect is at all relevant with respect to looking at such in and of itself alone.
>>To me, the men on "The Full Monty" movie are not exactly husband material (although I find the movie to be an excellent one). Aside from looks, the accents they use are so divergent from RP that they might as well be from a totally different country than Pierce Brosnan or Hugh Grant. This is also true of the broadest Cockney. I don't like my men to be highbrows but I DO want then to sound just a little bit more educated than that.<<
Of course, whether they sound like they are from a totally different country from Pierce Brosnan and Hugh Grant at least should be irrelevant here, and furthermore, there is nothing about sounding like such that stops one from being "a little more educated", or vice versa.
>>Most Americans who are push-overs to "British accents" have either never heard such accents or are completely braindead in confusing them with anything even REMOTELY resembling RP.<<
Well, yes, most Americans are likely to be very ignorant with respect to English accents/dialects beyond just RP, Cockney, and *maybe* Estuary English, especially since the only English accent most Americans have been exposed to is RP, near-RP, and just maybe Estuary today.
>>The truth is that the vast majority of Americans are extremely stupid (among other things) for thinking that all British people talk like certain British characters in popular American movies or epic movies or who guest star on American TV programmes. They incorrectly draw a parallel between RP (which is on its deathbed as we speak) to GAE (which is currently used by over two-thirds of native born Americans). The truth is that RP in Britain does NOT correspond to GAE in the US. It is NOT characteristic of the way the average British person speaks.<<
Well, yes, RP and GAE are very different kinds of "standards". RP is a quite specific form closely linked, at least classically, with high social class and like, whereas GAE is more like just a very vague, very generic "average" of how most Americans today speak.
>>Most Americans don't even know what the hell RP is anyway. However, it's what they typically associate with a "British" accent. They think that "British English" is refined even though what they consider "British English" is the accent which is spoken by certain actors and not by the general public in the UK.<<
Of course.
>>The truth is that most Americans know as much about the sociolinguistics of British speech as a rubbish collector knows about particle physics.<<
Well, they aren't linguists, overall, and they don't live in the UK, so can expect that from them.
>>Sadly, their love of "British" speech stems from pure, complete, and total ignorance and is based on a VERY false and misleading stereotype of how british people really talk.<<
Well, yes - would one expect everyone to sound like Hugh Grant?
>>To all you American girls out there: Most British men do NOT look or sound like Hugh Grant or Pierce Brosnan. You need to start watching some REAL British programming with REAL people. Enough said.<<
Not like we get that much here if you don't watch PBS or get BBC in the first place and then bother to actually watch it.
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